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There are four of Them: three girls and one boy, little stair-steps all. There are two of Us: best friends, co-parents and truly in love. The Six of us have epic adventures full of laughter and love, occasionally containing tears, but always together.

Saturday, July 2, 2011

It's Not Fair

PrincessE has moved into the age of sleepovers. We haven't had many and we try to keep them reasonable; she is only nine after all. But they do occasionally happen and that's okay.

Tonight PrincessE is having over one of her friends who is moving to America in just three weeks. She wanted to have this friend for a sleepover before she left and we obliged.

Everyone was excited to have this young lady over; she and PrincessE play really well with the whole group of siblings. But I really felt it was important to give them the space to be together on their own. So, when nighttime came we had the two little girls get ready and go to bed. They weren't allowed to stay up and watch the movie the big girls were watching. The Boy-child got to stay and watch for a few minutes and then he was off to bed too.

Poor Lu-Lu was heartbroken. She sobbed while I was brushing her teeth and cried when she was getting her nightclothes on. As I tucked her in she became even more upset. "It's not fair. They get to watch a movie. They get to stay up late. It's not fair." Oh, Lu.

I know she was exhausted, we had a busy day. And I know she was sad she didn't get to see the movie. Inwardly, I was sad for her, while finding it ironic that she hates the movie the big girls had chosen to watch. I comforted her with hugs and kisses. She went to sleep crying.

I know life isn't fair. There's not anything fair about it. And I don't really want to protect my kids from that. But it is hard to feel like I'm giving one some
Privilege and not giving the others some too. I try hard not to show favorites and this feels a tad like I'm doing that. However, I also recognize that we expect more from PrincessE because she is the oldest and so it's okay for her to have different Privileges.

Ah the high-wire act of parenting.

It's just not fair.